Life on Mars

"Martians"Martians value power, competency, efficiency and achievement. They are always doing things to prove themselves and develop their powers and skills.  Their sense of self is predefined through their ability to acheive results. They experience fulfilment primarily through success and accomplishment.

“A man’s sense of self is defined through his ability to acheive results.”

Everything on Mars is a reflection of these values. Even their dress is designed to reflect their skills and competence. Police officers, soldiers, businessmen, scientists, cab drivers, technicians and chefs all wear uniforms or at least hats to reflect their competence and power.

They don’t read magazines like Psychology Today,  Self or People. They are more concerned with outdoor activities, like hunting, fishing and racing cars. They are interested in the news, weather and sports and couldn’t care less about romance novels and self-help books.

They are more interested in ‘objects’ and ‘things’ rather than people and feelings. Even today on Earth, while women fantasize about romance, men fantasize about powerful cars, faster computers, gadgets, gizmos and new powerful technology. Men are preoccupied with the ‘things’ that can help them express power by creating results and achieving goals.

Achieving goals is very important to a Martian because it is a way for him to prove his competence and thus feel good about himself. And for him to feel good about himself he must achieve these goals by himself. Someone else can’t achieve them for him. Martians pride themselves in doing things all by themselves. Autonomy is a symbol of effiency, power and competence.

Understanding this Martian characteristic can help women understand why men resist on so much being corrected and being told what to do.  To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn’t know what to do or that he can’t do it on his own. Men are very touchy about this, because the issue of competence is very important to them.

Because he is handling his problems on his own, a Martian rarely talks about his problem unless he needs expert advice. He reasons: ‘Why involve someone else when I can do it all by myself?’   he keeps his problems to himself unless he requires help from another to find a solution. Asking for help when you can do it yourself is perceived as a sign of weakness.

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